I came across recently on the network some interesting exchange of views on the topic of celibacy. Today it is a very well-known practice of being attacked. The texts refer to the male-female relationships (and more precisely here: the male-księżowskich) and of the consequences of misuse of survival. The authors include about the suffering and dilemmas faced by people hitting the limitations which are inherent to being celibate or married life in purity. Very interested me O. SJ Oszajcy word that describes a situation with his life:
episcopal visitation. Excellency arrived by car, stayed with the pastor in a brick mansion. Vicar living in a wooden wikarówce did not deign to visit. There was no such custom. Especially we had no pretensions about it.
Finally the end of the visit. Pontifical Mass. Bishop tells the pulpit. And I can not tear your eyes away from the young man holding the hands of the little son. I was then in his early thirties - and therefore either now or never. I knew that I serve the Lord with an undivided heart, and meanwhile there are quite heart goes in another direction. It is no longer just about sex, about "having a woman", but with marriage and fatherhood. My soul, psyche demands a whole person. Perhaps for someone, body and soul just as the young father in a unique, impossible to replace. After Mass and lunch, ran to the cemetery and there on someone's headstone read: "God wanted." So that way things are ... Nonsense, heresy! Or maybe helplessness ... All I want, down to the grave. It occurred to me then that there will be wives, not children, I will not be anyone's sole and irreplaceable, and that's not worth asking, what is, and that this lack of one and I did not replace it. Neither work, nor people, nor the Mother of God, or God. There will always be in my absence, the empty space and hunger. And so it should be. There is no longer even what sublimate. After a while I realized that that undivided heart, if it is to have meaning, it is provided that applies to every Christian, indeed, to every human being, not just some.
Finally the end of the visit. Pontifical Mass. Bishop tells the pulpit. And I can not tear your eyes away from the young man holding the hands of the little son. I was then in his early thirties - and therefore either now or never. I knew that I serve the Lord with an undivided heart, and meanwhile there are quite heart goes in another direction. It is no longer just about sex, about "having a woman", but with marriage and fatherhood. My soul, psyche demands a whole person. Perhaps for someone, body and soul just as the young father in a unique, impossible to replace. After Mass and lunch, ran to the cemetery and there on someone's headstone read: "God wanted." So that way things are ... Nonsense, heresy! Or maybe helplessness ... All I want, down to the grave. It occurred to me then that there will be wives, not children, I will not be anyone's sole and irreplaceable, and that's not worth asking, what is, and that this lack of one and I did not replace it. Neither work, nor people, nor the Mother of God, or God. There will always be in my absence, the empty space and hunger. And so it should be. There is no longer even what sublimate. After a while I realized that that undivided heart, if it is to have meaning, it is provided that applies to every Christian, indeed, to every human being, not just some.
So it does not REPLACE a lack of something else, does not reduce pain arising from the resignation of married life - just the amount the victim, coming to terms with it ... Frankly, that moved me to a religious belief of the Society of Jesus ...
Above I presented only a fragment of a larger whole (links to all articles of exchange of views between the Jesuit and Mrs Zuzanna Radzik put below). Sam I release from commenting on a whole (while encouraging discussion in the comments under the entry), but let me quote one more passage from the second text Oszajcy O.. It corresponds to the charge of neglect in its initial consideration of the suffering of women who have entered into inappropriate relationships with priests:
second person of the drama - sorry, but I have to use an ugly word, for which we should long since forgotten, but better I do not have at hand - secular, as we mentioned Mr. Radzik Susan, can also say - no! Therefore, I would not want to bid, somehow measure or determine who of them suffer more, who made a greater sacrifice.
In either case, you may, but need not, be about loyalty, not only given word, not only of loyalty to each other, but something more: a loyalty to those who have already said the same thing, and with which a man tied up and took responsibility for them. Therefore not discharge his cassock, which is out of the corporation, retraining, but with perseverance in this regard, what already exists. And it was slowed down expectancy that fidelity begins to mercilessly scorch, it does not follow from this that the priest whether a bishop can his wife, a church, leave calmly.
In either case, you may, but need not, be about loyalty, not only given word, not only of loyalty to each other, but something more: a loyalty to those who have already said the same thing, and with which a man tied up and took responsibility for them. Therefore not discharge his cassock, which is out of the corporation, retraining, but with perseverance in this regard, what already exists. And it was slowed down expectancy that fidelity begins to mercilessly scorch, it does not follow from this that the priest whether a bishop can his wife, a church, leave calmly.
sounds really hard ... At the end I strongly encourage you to familiarize yourself with all the articles, however, it is important to read them carefully - not to understand them in an inappropriate way. And as a summary of the alert let the words of St. decay. Paul
I want you to be free from the affliction. The unmarried man is anxious about the affairs of the Lord is, how to please the Lord. He who marries is anxious about worldly affairs, about how to please his wife. And his interests are divided. Similarly, unmarried woman or girl is anxious about the affairs of the Lord, how to be holy in body and spirit. This in turn, is married, seeks the things of the world, about how to please her husband. (1 Corinthians 7, 32-34)
Question from me: Is Priest Catholic has to take care of affairs of the world ... or about the affairs of God?
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